I know what your thinking, That’s not really that big of a secret. We all have instances in which we feel like somehow we pulled the short straw. Better yet we didn’t even pull it, it wasn’t our choice or our plan but somehow we are stuck in a confused and heartbreaking episode of UNFAIR.
For Example it’s unfair;
That parents have to go through the loss of a child, whether it is a miscarriage or tragic event that takes them from you.
That spouses have to deal with the hurt and distrust of a husband/wife cheating on them and are left picking up the pieces on their own.
That the worker who has spent years and energy with a company finds out that only months before He/She is to retire their position has been cut and they are left wondering the next steps.
Whatever scenario you have witnessed whether one listed or one that has not, we can all come to the realization that. Life is Not Fair. When this happens it leaves us, broke, emotionally spent, waiving our hands in the air hoping it would stop, or maybe pounding our fist on the table in a sense of despiration.
Insert my story. Four years ago my wife and I lost our first Child, due to a miscarriage. We were heartbroken, distrought, and at only 14 weeks pregnant we had our first Son. We were not quite married a year yet and our life had been interrupted by an episode of UNFAIR. We couldn’t understand or fathom why this was happening to us. We were plauged with the thought of, so many parents are having kids and don’t even want them. So many Children are killed each year out of convienience, and our Child is taken from us. Why, How, What Now. I was mad, sad, broken and distrought. Here we were holding our lifeless baby boy, hoping for a heartbeat. Life was unfair.
I was at a loss, I was mad. The emotions that come with loss was raging. Then I received a call from my Pastor at the time and friend. He made the statement that has stuck with me and I want to share with you. He said,
George, I can’t imagine the pain and loss you feel at this very moment. I imagine your emotions are out of control and you can’t begin to understand why this is happening. I am not going to even try and give great words of comfort because I don’t think any words are right at this poing but know this. God cares about you and feels your hurt, it is okay to be angry, and it is even okay to question God and voice your hurt to Him. But just know this. In your anger do not sin.
That statement changed the way I viewed God and my relationship with him. Years of growing up in church, I have never heard anything that spoke so profoundly as to how God wants to interact with me. It let me realize and understand He wants to take my pain. He wants to hear my anger, He wants me to give everything over to Him. His heart breaks when His Children hurt, and he is moved with compassion, when we reach to Him, and He truly helps us cope. I will not say that time has helaled because we are left with a scar, but God has helped us cope. He has also blessed us with two more children since 2005.
Has life been unfair to you? Have you needed to be reminded that God wants to hear whatever is on your heart and mind? He has not only come to save but he binds up the brokenheated, sets at liberty those who are held captive, what situation do you need God to intervene in?