I am almost two years into this parenting and the daily adventures never stop. If you are a parent than you know that watching children grow and learn new things is an amazing process. Peyton (my son) never ceases to amaze me with his development. At not even two his knowledge of what to do and what not to do, by far is amazing. I often think, “Was I this smart when I was that young.” Most of my friends would say that I am not that smart now much less then.
One truth that I have learned by seeing him grow and pick up new things, are children like to test the limits, and man do they ever. For instance there is one thing that Chanelle (my wife) and I think that he just shouldn’t do, that is take food and drink in the bathroom. In the afternoon I am here with Peyton after work for close to two hours before Chanelle gets home. That leaves the challenge of do I close the door and wander what he will get into or leave the door open, and to be honest I would much rather be able to keep an eye on him. Pretty much all the time he has his juice cup or a small snack of some sort in his hands. One thing that I have tried to teach is that he is to stay at the door and not to bring what he is eating into the bathroom. He started off staying in the hallway but each day he has stepped closer and closer to the entrance of the door way.
Today was no different however he would inch first his toes over the threshold then inch and inch until both of his feet were standing in the bathroom, you guessed it holding his snack in his hands and looking up at me with that little know it all stare as if he was saying, “I knew I would make it in one day no matter what.” He was testing the limits, however just as he got the two feet in then stared up at me he quickly turned and walked out. But his face was priceless. It was as if he was saying in some sort of childish silence, “you said I couldn’t but I knew I could.”
You see I still believe he is too small to comprehend the reasons why we don’t want him in the bathroom with food and drink, all he knows is he is being told that he can’t go in there. It seems like kids have this way about them that if you say they can’t, then they try. Some call it rebellion, others say they don’t listen like they used to but I put a different perspective on it. I think they just feel the urge that for some reason they are being held down and they have to prove that they can. We still won’t allow him to be in there, and as he grows he will be taught the reasons why and then he will understand why he stands in the hall. However; I am left with this lesson from today’s parenting adventure.
God knows whats best for us but we still try and test the limits. He gave us his word to teach us and to guide us through life but we still want to prove that we can do it some other way. When it comes down to it we have the will not syndrome. I call the WILL NOT syndrome this. No one, not even God is going to hold us back without understanding the reasons why the boundaries are in place. Then we go, cross over the threshold and realize that our way really isn’t the best way to do it and we are left with yet another undesirable lesson of not listening to the ultimate guiding voice of truth.
I believe that there are times that he calls us to test the limits but never when it is a threshold that he has asked us to stay behind. You see if God has asked us to stand behind, it is for a reason. A reason that we may not fully understand.
Point being, know what the limits are and what they are in place for. Never test them to try and prove a point, or just because you wanted to prove you could. Know what you are doing and why you are doing it, know when to stay behind the threshold.
Thanks for Reading – gt